Wednesday, April 1, 2026

Armchair Genealogy

 


By Melinda Cohenour



Intro:In my continuing quest to "bring life" to the family members in my tree, I have chosen to include not just cold, hard Facts but Stories that reveal the human strengths and frailties, the successes and failures, the celebrations and heartaches that introduce the person and not just their names, relationship, and  vital facts. 

In recent months I have delved into my own mental diary and chosen to relate the little memories and events that may help my grandchildren and great grandchildren and even my descendants many, many years beyond my own earthly existence learn to know ME. I dream of some young man or woman many years hence who may find some connection to me as they peruse our family tree.

Here I present a tribute to my father, delving into his occupation which filled so many hours of each day of his life but was so far from the entirety of his efforts that nurtured his family and brought respect and admiration from his peers.

 THE MAKING OF THE ICE MAN

My father, Jack Carroll, was born in Joplin, Missouri, about forty miles from McDonald County situated in the most Southwestern corner of the state (County seat Pineville). That area of Missouri features rolling hills blessed with creeks notably Big Sugar Creek owning bragging rights to the second longest Swinging Bridge and Little Sugar that fed into Elk River. 

Daddy came to Texas as a young man recently graduated from High School seeking a career. Life as a farmer was hard, dawn to dusk labor, and there was little money to be made. Although the Missouri Ozarks are ranked among the most beautiful places in America if not the world, in the 1930s as America rushed toward the Great Depression, the Ozarks offered little opportunity.

His beloved stepfather Earl Joseph King since he was eight years old had encouraged Daddy to "come West, young man, and work with me." 

My sister Mary kindly filled me in on the details of that job: Our grandfather worked at the Ozark Mahoning Salsoda Plant in west Texas. It was another holding of the Mining Company in Kansas where Daddy Earl had worked underground and had 14 1/2 lbs of lead dust in his lungs. When diagnosed as having a short time to live, and needing dry weather and sunshine, the company transferred him to this western desert area of Texas in Ward County. Daddy’s first job with them was driving a mule powered drag line to knock down and keep clear the area around the wells for mining Salsoda. Daddy walked as he made the mule pull the log drag line.

Grandma and Grandpa King lived in the rural community of Royalty just South of Monahans. Daddy and his bride lived next door and met other young couples in the area. Early in 1941, they purchased two lots on Tatum Avenue in Monahans, which at the time was the furthest southern plowed and caliche graded road in town. Primary reason for the move was so Mary, their oldest daughter of three, could start Grade School there at Brown Elementary.

However, in 1942, when America became part of WWII, Daddy wasn't allowed to enlist being sole support of a mother with a disabled husband as well as being married and father of three children. Determined to do their part in supporting America, both Daddy and Mother, along with one of Mother's brothers, Jackie Oakley Joslin, found employment in the Vancouver, WA Shipyards. Most of that time their three girls lived with Daddy's parents in Royalty. Their Monahans home was leased to officers stationed at the Pyote Air Base.

On their return after VE Day from Washington State, one of the first couples to welcome them was Margie Griggs Meacham and her husband Tom. They were so well loved they became my godparents when I arrived as the fourth daughter.

Uncle Tom Meacham was a lovely, wise and kind man. Aunt Margie was gentle, sweet and had a surprisingly quick humor. We loved them deeply. At some point, Uncle Tom offered Daddy Jack an opportunity to partner with him in a novel enterprise for a desert community: the manufacture, marketing and delivery of ice. They were joint venturers in ownership and management of the major plant in Monahans serving the interstate rail and truck produce delivery industry. Tom also owned two more ice plants, one in neighboring Odessa, and one in the smaller town of Wink. 

This past month an innocent query posted on Facebook in a popular group, Monahans High School Exes, generated a discussion that triggered a flood of memories. The admin of that group asked what jobs no longer existed that were once popular. A number of responses seemed to post concurrently to my own: 'working at' or 'using the services of' the Monahans Ice Plant. 

The first that caught my eye was this by Sam Cathy Kelton: "Ice house. Monahans had one in the 1950s located by the railroad tracks to keep perishables shipped by rail cool. I remember going there with my grandfather to buy blocks of ice he’d chop up for water cans."

I immediately replied: "Sam Cathy Kelton That was owned and managed by my father John 'Jack' Carroll in partnership with my Godfather Tom Meacham.

All the work required of the employees built muscles! The high school football coaches encouraged their players to work at the plant. More than one of DaddyJack's 'boys' were recruited to college football teams. Daddy Jack followed their careers like a proud papa!"

Following on my reply, my beautiful elder sister posted the following response, triggering vivid nostalgic memories for me: 
"💁Daddy Jack Carroll, a refrigeration engineer, was part owner of Tom Meacham’s Monahans Permian Ice Plant, one of three of Meacham’s Ice Plants with one each in Wink and Odessa. Here, the plant produced both block ice and Ready Ice, a form of small, hard frozen rings sold in bags. Wink only made blocks, Odessa only made Ready Ice so our plant delivered the blocks needed in Odessa and the bags needed in Wink. More sophisticated production than most people realized.

Mary then added this memory:
"For a Homecoming Parade I was chosen as Miss Permian Ice and Daddy Jack made me a throne from the 300 lb ice blocks in the back of one of the plant’s pickups. The ice blocks on either side of the seat had a bouquet spray of a dozen red roses frozen in the center of the crystal clear blocks. A very fancy “Throne.” I wore a low neck formal and a fur stole but it was still a very chilly parade ride."

I remember that parade and Mary's glamorous gown and beautiful stole. I was mesmerized by the two dozen long stemmed roses in the huge blocks of ice! To my young mind that was MAGIC!

Other memories stirred by an earlier subject featuring the photo of a man toting one of those 300 lb. blocks (see pic below) generated comments that actually portray a rather broad spectrum of services offered or customer needs fulfilled by the following comments: 

 Ralph Neidhardt:
"In the 1940's after WWII, I remember putting a card in the front window and the ice man would come and place the requested amount in our cooler/refrigerator. We had to run a hose out the back door to drain the melted ice from the previous visit. Mother was in heaven when we got a real refrigerator."

Ellen Neal:
"I remember the ice house in Monahans and the semi-trucks getting their blocks of ice." 

Judith Snelson:
"Me too! On long trips mother would put a tub of ice underneath her feet on the floorboard. Helped with the otherwise hot rides before car AC!"

Linda Grant:
"I remember the ice house in Monahans and stopping to get two ice blocks to keep food cool when camping." 

 

In 1914, there were 182 ice factories in Texas. This photo of a man named Charlie Thorn carrying a 300 lb. block of ice at the Dillingham-Alexander Ice Plant in Breckenridge, Texas, was taken in 1926 by the great Basil Clemons and is part of the collection at UT Arlington.


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The practice of preserving foods or cooling an area as a respite from heat has its roots far in the past. Google reports the following stages of development and the source reporting each:

* Major eras: Ice was first manufactured using early, natural methods by Egyptian and Indian cultures around 500 B.C., who used evaporative cooling with porous clay pots to freeze water overnight. The first mechanical ice-making machine was invented in the mid-18th century, with commercial industrial production emerging in the 1830s-1850s.

 SOURCE: Wikipedia

* Key Milestones in Ice Production:
500 B.C.: Egyptians and Indians created thin layers of ice using shallow clay pots and rapid evaporation, according to BF Technology and Ice Systems.

1750 B.C. - 400 B.C.: Civilizations in China, Sumeria (Mesopotamia), and Persia stored naturally frozen ice in specialized buildings (yakhchals) to preserve food and cool drinks, notes Wintersmiths and Emergency Ice.

1755: Scottish professor William Cullen designed the first artificial refrigeration machine, demonstrating the method of creating ice, although it was not used for commercial production.

1800s: The Natural Ice Trade, led by "Ice King" Frederic Tudor, dominated the 19th century by harvesting, storing, and shipping natural ice from frozen lakes.

1834: Jacob Perkins built the first working vapor-compression refrigeration system.

1850s: John Gorrie patented a machine to make ice to treat yellow fever patients, pioneering mechanical ice production, says Focusun.

1929: The first commercial tube ice machine was invented by Jurgen Hans. 

SOURCE: Reddy Ice
 
Modern electric home refrigerators with automatic ice makers became common by the 1930s-1940s, notes Everest Ice and Water Systems and Euhomy. 

SOURCE: Everest Ice and Water Systems

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This tribute continues in my next column. See you then! 

In the meantime create your own stories capturing the personalities and events in your own or favorite family profile to spark an emotion from those who share your research.

  


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Introspective

 


 

 
 
 
 
 

Is Buddhism the answer? 

 


When I was teaching High School in China, I put together a lesson plan for my Cultural Diversity class. The class was designed to show how religiously diverse America is and how freedom of religion is an important aspect of our American culture.


Every American has the right to express their religious or nonreligious beliefs, as these beliefs are integral to our American heritage. The majority of Americans are Christians, but the United States is not a Christian Nation because of our religious diversity.
 We are a microcosm of people representing every religious culture throughout the world.


The Chinese government has estimated that there are approximately 44 million Christians living in China. But many evangelical churches on the Chinese mainland are stating that China is grossly deflating the true Christian representation in there.


Some other international Christian organizations estimate there are tens of millions more Christians who choose not to publicly identify as such, but these estimations are usually controversial and even suspected of deliberate inflation.


Chinese evangelicals are also claiming that the Chinese government is giving tourists the impression that China is pro-Buddhism. The Chinese are well aware that for thousands of years Buddhism has been interwoven into China’s rich cultural heritage. The Chinese
 government does not want its citizens to lose their cultural heritage to western influences.


Most of China’s tourist destinations feature Buddhist temples as part of their appeal. On the other hand, Christian churches are restricted from being erected near those tourist sites. This has caused some tensions in China among Christian fundamentalists who
 feel they're being persecuted by China’s pro-Buddhist attitudes.’


Some human rights activists backed by various Christian denominations claim that the Chinese Government is running a campaign to strip Christian churches of their crosses. They proclaim in their literature that 1,200 churches in the Zhejiang province in eastern
 China had their crosses removed by the Chinese government. By their estimates, China is home to 100 million Christians, compared with the Communist Party’s 91 million members.


Those same human rights activists believe China’s communist party perceives the growth of Christianity as a threat. However, Buddhism is the most favored religion in China, favored by both the Chinese people and by the Chinese government.


This has not stopped Christian leaders from filing complaints with the Zhejiang Province’s ‘Ethnic and Religious Affairs Bureau’. They claim hundreds of places of worship have had bright red crosses removed. Some churches have been completely demolished, while
 civil servants have been banned from practicing their Christian faith. Those same Christian leaders suspect that the anti-Christian campaign has the backing of the Chinese president, Xi Jinping, and could be a “pilot project” before a nationwide crackdown.


Officials from Zhejiang’s ‘Ethnic and Religious Affairs Bureau’ responded to the complaints. Stating the government had “merely relocated the crosses out of safety concerns.”


“Generally speaking, the church staff and people are very supportive [of the removals],” an official added. Christian communities, both protestant and Catholic, are extremely angry over the removal of the crosses. A group of Catholic clergy – including an 89-year-old
 bishop – took to the streets to protest. 


“What they are doing feels like something from the Cultural Revolution era,” complained one religious leader from Zhejiang.


Catholics have also circulated an open letter claiming the removals of crosses from churches have gotten “completely out of control.”


The letter went on to say, “Our diocese has been patient and reasonable – again and again we have shown tolerance, prayed, communicated and observed, hoping that the haze would clear.”


The letter went on to say, “But they have not stopped. Rather, they have escalated the campaign and have rushed to attack the cross, the symbol of peace and love.”


Addressing China’s Christian population, the letter concluded: “Let us speak out.”


A five-story church in the city of Wenling was demolished recently; the government claims the Church was demolished voluntarily.

A government report states, “the church had expanded without going through the proper approval process and was relocated.”

Various news outlets have done stories on the relocation of the Church, but that has not stopped the flow of persecution claims from evangelical Christians.


The Chinese government report also stated, “the building not only affected city planning but also posed a severe threat to road safety.”


Christian leaders are also claiming that the Chinese government’s “antichurch” campaign has gotten so far out of hand that government officials are deploying groups of incense-burning Buddhist monks to “provoke” Christians who are trying to defend their cross.


Protestant ministers are also complaining; they believe that Chinese officials’ sending monks to chant sutras in front of Protestant Churches is nothing more than a ploy to get Christian congregations riled up. One Christian fundamentalist stated, “They’re
 trying to make us angry so that we retaliate against them.”


I used to remind my students that I’m not a religious person and I don’t particularly believe in any brand of religion. But we all can learn a great deal from Buddhism; it has intrigued me for many years. I understand why the Chinese government would endorse
 the Buddhist belief system over all other religious beliefs and practices. Buddhism, after all, is ingrained in China’s culture and heritage. For many in China, especially among the youth, Buddhism is more of an intellectual pursuit rather than a religious
 practice.


The majority of the Chinese do not have fundamentalist attitudes when it comes to religion. That is a good thing because I for one would not want to live in a theocracy.


I also liked to remind my students, - fundamentalism in any form is dangerous – it forces ill-willed people to live their lives ignorantly due to a lack of spiritual insight and a narrow-minded belief system. You can find these extremists in every religion
 throughout history.


Religion is shaped by one's parents and by their parents' parents, but our spirituality is what we are born with. Spirituality is the spark, the essence, and the spirit that sustains us and all things. It is beyond rituals and religious symbols because it's
 the core of our existence. True spirituality is the torch that lights the way, not religious principles that are imposed or mandated on others. It is lived and expressed freely in one’s character for others to emulate and embrace.


Growing up as an American, I recognize the importance of having a separation of church and state in our democracy. Americans can worship as they choose without government intrusions. That is certainly a good thing for our democratic way of life.


America is far from being perfect, but it has always been a beacon of light for people throughout the world. People from all parts of the globe have sought to come to America. They do so in order to emulate and embrace our American way of life, and that is
 just one of the reasons why I’m proud to be an American.

Every American has the right to express their religious or nonreligious beliefs, as these beliefs are integral to our American heritage. The majority of Americans are Christians, but the United States is not a Christian Nation because of our religious diversity.
 We are a microcosm of people representing every religious culture throughout the world.


The Chinese government has estimated that there are approximately 44 million Christians living in China. But many evangelical churches on the Chinese mainland are stating that China is grossly deflating the true Christian representation in there.


Some other international Christian organizations estimate there are tens of millions more Christians who choose not to publicly identify as such, but these estimations are usually controversial and even suspected of deliberate inflation.


Chinese evangelicals are also claiming that the Chinese government is giving tourists the impression that China is pro-Buddhism. The Chinese are well aware that for thousands of years Buddhism has been interwoven into China’s rich cultural heritage. The Chinese
 government does not want its citizens to lose their cultural heritage to western influences.


Most of China’s tourist destinations feature Buddhist temples as part of their appeal. On the other hand, Christian churches are restricted from being erected near those tourist sites. This has caused some tensions in China among Christian fundamentalists who
 feel they're being persecuted by China’s pro-Buddhist attitudes.’


Some human rights activists backed by various Christian denominations claim that the Chinese Government is running a campaign to strip Christian churches of their crosses. They proclaim in their literature that 1,200 churches in the Zhejiang province in eastern
 China had their crosses removed by the Chinese government. By their estimates, China is home to 100 million Christians, compared with the Communist Party’s 91 million members.


Those same human rights activists believe China’s communist party perceives the growth of Christianity as a threat. However, Buddhism is the most favored religion in China, favored by both the Chinese people and by the Chinese government.


This has not stopped Christian leaders from filing complaints with the Zhejiang Province’s ‘Ethnic and Religious Affairs Bureau’. They claim hundreds of places of worship have had bright red crosses removed. Some churches have been completely demolished, while
 civil servants have been banned from practicing their Christian faith. Those same Christian leaders suspect that the anti-Christian campaign has the backing of the Chinese president, Xi Jinping, and could be a “pilot project” before a nationwide crackdown.


Officials from Zhejiang’s ‘Ethnic and Religious Affairs Bureau’ responded to the complaints. Stating the government had “merely relocated the crosses out of safety concerns.”


“Generally speaking, the church staff and people are very supportive [of the removals],” an official added. Christian communities, both protestant and Catholic, are extremely angry over the removal of the crosses. A group of Catholic clergy – including an 89-year-old
 bishop – took to the streets to protest. 


“What they are doing feels like something from the Cultural Revolution era,” complained one religious leader from Zhejiang.


Catholics have also circulated an open letter claiming the removals of crosses from churches have gotten “completely out of control.”


The letter went on to say, “Our diocese has been patient and reasonable – again and again we have shown tolerance, prayed, communicated and observed, hoping that the haze would clear.”


The letter went on to say, “But they have not stopped. Rather, they have escalated the campaign and have rushed to attack the cross, the symbol of peace and love.”


Addressing China’s Christian population, the letter concluded: “Let us speak out.”


A five-story church in the city of Wenling was demolished recently; the government claims the Church was demolished voluntarily.

A government report states, “the church had expanded without going through the proper approval process and was relocated.”

Various news outlets have done stories on the relocation of the Church, but that has not stopped the flow of persecution claims from evangelical Christians.


The Chinese government report also stated, “the building not only affected city planning but also posed a severe threat to road safety.”


Christian leaders are also claiming that the Chinese government’s “antichurch” campaign has gotten so far out of hand that government officials are deploying groups of incense-burning Buddhist monks to “provoke” Christians who are trying to defend their cross.


Protestant ministers are also complaining; they believe that Chinese officials’ sending monks to chant sutras in front of Protestant Churches is nothing more than a ploy to get Christian congregations riled up. One Christian fundamentalist stated, “They’re
 trying to make us angry so that we retaliate against them.”


I used to remind my students that I’m not a religious person and I don’t particularly believe in any brand of religion. But we all can learn a great deal from Buddhism; it has intrigued me for many years. I understand why the Chinese government would endorse
 the Buddhist belief system over all other religious beliefs and practices. Buddhism, after all, is ingrained in China’s culture and heritage. For many in China, especially among the youth, Buddhism is more of an intellectual pursuit rather than a religious
 practice.


The majority of the Chinese do not have fundamentalist attitudes when it comes to religion. That is a good thing because I for one would not want to live in a theocracy.


I also liked to remind my students, - fundamentalism in any form is dangerous – it forces ill-willed people to live their lives ignorantly due to a lack of spiritual insight and a narrow-minded belief system. You can find these extremists in every religion
 throughout history.


Religion is shaped by one's parents and by their parents' parents, but our spirituality is what we are born with. Spirituality is the spark, the essence, and the spirit that sustains us and all things. It is beyond rituals and religious symbols because it's
 the core of our existence. True spirituality is the torch that lights the way, not religious principles that are imposed or mandated on others. It is lived and expressed freely in one’s character for others to emulate and embrace.


Growing up as an American, I recognize the importance of having a separation of church and state in our democracy. Americans can worship as they choose without government intrusions. That is certainly a good thing for our democratic way of life.


America is far from being perfect, but it has always been a beacon of light for people throughout the world. People from all parts of the globe have sought to come to America. They do so in order to emulate and embrace our American way of life, and that is
 just one of the reasons why I’m proud to be an American.
Every American has the right to express their religious or nonreligious beliefs, as these beliefs are integral to our American heritage. The majority of Americans are Christians, but the United States is not a Christian Nation because of our religious diversity.
 We are a microcosm of people representing every religious culture throughout the world.


The Chinese government has estimated that there are approximately 44 million Christians living in China. But many evangelical churches on the Chinese mainland are stating that China is grossly deflating the true Christian representation in there.


Some other international Christian organizations estimate there are tens of millions more Christians who choose not to publicly identify as such, but these estimations are usually controversial and even suspected of deliberate inflation.


Chinese evangelicals are also claiming that the Chinese government is giving tourists the impression that China is pro-Buddhism. The Chinese are well aware that for thousands of years Buddhism has been interwoven into China’s rich cultural heritage. The Chinese
 government does not want its citizens to lose their cultural heritage to western influences.


Most of China’s tourist destinations feature Buddhist temples as part of their appeal. On the other hand, Christian churches are restricted from being erected near those tourist sites. This has caused some tensions in China among Christian fundamentalists who
 feel they're being persecuted by China’s pro-Buddhist attitudes.’


Some human rights activists backed by various Christian denominations claim that the Chinese Government is running a campaign to strip Christian churches of their crosses. They proclaim in their literature that 1,200 churches in the Zhejiang province in eastern
 China had their crosses removed by the Chinese government. By their estimates, China is home to 100 million Christians, compared with the Communist Party’s 91 million members.


Those same human rights activists believe China’s communist party perceives the growth of Christianity as a threat. However, Buddhism is the most favored religion in China, favored by both the Chinese people and by the Chinese government.


This has not stopped Christian leaders from filing complaints with the Zhejiang Province’s ‘Ethnic and Religious Affairs Bureau’. They claim hundreds of places of worship have had bright red crosses removed. Some churches have been completely demolished, while
 civil servants have been banned from practicing their Christian faith. Those same Christian leaders suspect that the anti-Christian campaign has the backing of the Chinese president, Xi Jinping, and could be a “pilot project” before a nationwide crackdown.


Officials from Zhejiang’s ‘Ethnic and Religious Affairs Bureau’ responded to the complaints. Stating the government had “merely relocated the crosses out of safety concerns.”


“Generally speaking, the church staff and people are very supportive [of the removals],” an official added. Christian communities, both protestant and Catholic, are extremely angry over the removal of the crosses. A group of Catholic clergy – including an 89-year-old
 bishop – took to the streets to protest. 


“What they are doing feels like something from the Cultural Revolution era,” complained one religious leader from Zhejiang.


Catholics have also circulated an open letter claiming the removals of crosses from churches have gotten “completely out of control.”


The letter went on to say, “Our diocese has been patient and reasonable – again and again we have shown tolerance, prayed, communicated and observed, hoping that the haze would clear.”


The letter went on to say, “But they have not stopped. Rather, they have escalated the campaign and have rushed to attack the cross, the symbol of peace and love.”


Addressing China’s Christian population, the letter concluded: “Let us speak out.”


A five-story church in the city of Wenling was demolished recently; the government claims the Church was demolished voluntarily.

A government report states, “the church had expanded without going through the proper approval process and was relocated.”

Various news outlets have done stories on the relocation of the Church, but that has not stopped the flow of persecution claims from evangelical Christians.


The Chinese government report also stated, “the building not only affected city planning but also posed a severe threat to road safety.”


Christian leaders are also claiming that the Chinese government’s “antichurch” campaign has gotten so far out of hand that government officials are deploying groups of incense-burning Buddhist monks to “provoke” Christians who are trying to defend their cross.


Protestant ministers are also complaining; they believe that Chinese officials’ sending monks to chant sutras in front of Protestant Churches is nothing more than a ploy to get Christian congregations riled up. One Christian fundamentalist stated, “They’re
 trying to make us angry so that we retaliate against them.”


I used to remind my students that I’m not a religious person and I don’t particularly believe in any brand of religion. But we all can learn a great deal from Buddhism; it has intrigued me for many years. I understand why the Chinese government would endorse
 the Buddhist belief system over all other religious beliefs and practices. Buddhism, after all, is ingrained in China’s culture and heritage. For many in China, especially among the youth, Buddhism is more of an intellectual pursuit rather than a religious
 practice.


The majority of the Chinese do not have fundamentalist attitudes when it comes to religion. That is a good thing because I for one would not want to live in a theocracy.


I also liked to remind my students, - fundamentalism in any form is dangerous – it forces ill-willed people to live their lives ignorantly due to a lack of spiritual insight and a narrow-minded belief system. You can find these extremists in every religion
 throughout history.


Religion is shaped by one's parents and by their parents' parents, but our spirituality is what we are born with. Spirituality is the spark, the essence, and the spirit that sustains us and all things. It is beyond rituals and religious symbols because it's
 the core of our existence. True spirituality is the torch that lights the way, not religious principles that are imposed or mandated on others. It is lived and expressed freely in one’s character for others to emulate and embrace.


Growing up as an American, I recognize the importance of having a separation of church and state in our democracy. Americans can worship as they choose without government intrusions. That is certainly a good thing for our democratic way of life.


America is far from being perfect, but it has always been a beacon of light for people throughout the world. People from all parts of the globe have sought to come to America. They do so in order to emulate and embrace our American way of life, and that is
 just one of the reasons why I’m proud to be an American.
 
 


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Sifoddling Along

 






By Marilyn Carnell 

 

MY FAVORITE UNCLE


My parents grew up in large families on farms. Mom was the youngest of seven and Daddy was the youngest of four, plus a half-brother and stepbrother added by Grandpa Tom’s second marriage. I had a nine Uncles.

There are at least four degrees of Uncledom in the Ozarks: 1) Blood related, 2) marriage related and 3) a more distant connection was called shirt-tail related. In addition, older men who were unrelated were often given the honorary title because they were respected members of the community. Fortunately, because it was a small village where everyone’s genealogy was well known, the simple title of Uncle worked for all degrees of Uncledom.

In choosing a favorite uncle, I had the following cast of characters to consider:

On Mom's side of the family, I had Uncles Clancy, Earl, Tom, Abe, Dewey, and Rube.

Uncle Clancy was Mom’s oldest brother. He was drafted into the Army in 1917 and shipped out from Ft. Riley, Kansas where the Spanish Flu pandemic originated. He died the last week of the War in Flanders, likely from the flu. It seemed to me that his ghost hovered over the family, the missing prince who held so much promise, cut down in his prime.

Uncle Earl was named for an infamous great uncle who was a Confederate sniper in the Civil War. He chose a career in law enforcement. Like many men in my family who were peace officers, he was drawn to a  profession that allowed wearing a gun.

Uncle Tom was the spoiled youngest son. Handsome and charming, he had a weakness for moonshine but was loved by all.

Uncles by marriage were:

Uncle Abe married my Aunt Etta, he was the family “fixer” because he had many skills that we needed from building to cleaning fish. I could count on Uncle Abe to have my back until the day he died. He was a carpenter by trade and could fix almost anything wood or mechanical.

 

Uncle Rube was long gone from the family when I was born. He was what is known as a “rounder”. He drank and fought in local bars known as “buckets of blood”. My Aunt Fanny finally had enough and divorced him – a shocking act of independence in the 1930’s.

Uncle Dewey married my Aunt Dink. He was often a companion of Rube’s in debauchery, but Aunt Dink apparently had more patience.

On Daddy’s side I had Uncles Shorty, Doc, and Son.

Daddy had one brother, Uncle Shorty (Hiram). Aunt Pauline insulted my mom for not serving a snack when they visited, so the brothers were not on speaking terms for the years I was growing up and I never got to know him.

After my Grandma Babe died during her fifth pregnancy (another ghostly figure that hovered about.) Grandpa Tom married Grandma Annie. They had a son, Uncle Doc (Darrel) and Annie earlier had a son, my Uncle Son (Tom).

Uncle Son lived next door with Grandma Annie. Late in life he married Reba (she never gained “Aunt” status for reasons unclear.)

Uncle Doc was in the Army while I was growing up, so I barely knew him or his wife, Corinne.

But the favorite was easy – my Uncle Abe Lines. He and Aunt Etta were like a bonus set of parents. People I could count on, no matter what the circumstances.

They filled in the gaps in my early life that my own parents were unable to do.

Uncle Abe took me to movies in a nearby town, taught me to love the Cardinals baseball team and when I showed an interest in something like wood carving, he gave me the tools I needed like a pocket knife and a bar of soap to practice on.

A few years ago, I was asked to define a successful person. I concluded that my Uncle Abe and Aunt Etta were the most successful people I had ever known. Not because they had a lot of money. In fact they never had much but they were the most generous-hearted people I ever knew.

The foundation of their success was their deep love for each other. They fell in love from the moment they met sometime in the 1920s until my aunt had passed away some fifty years later. They were not openly affectionate, but had that steady closeness of a contented couple. Their relationship calls to mind the tearful country ballad “He Stopped Loving Her Today” a song about the death of a widower who clung to the memory of his wife. They shared that kind of enduring love.

When Uncle Abe learned that I was moving back to Pineville from Philadelphia in 1994, even though he was in his 80s he promptly went up to the house I was moving into and painted it. He wanted it to look nice and fresh for me.

I know he loved me and he treated me like I was his own child. He had no biological children of his own. My aunt had had a catastrophic pregnancy early in their marriage and was unable to have more children. He never mourned that fact, he simply adopted Aunt Etta’s daughter Freda and sealed me in his heart.

It is no wonder that he was my favorite uncle. He was special in so many ways – the most important was his unconditional love.

 


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On Trek

 

Orchestra in The Forest

 

Today I was sitting and my eyes were focusing on the picture windows, gazing out into the Forest. A very slight breeze was swaying the combination of various trees one way, and the trees swayed back for more. Everything was in harmony. 

 

Birds were circling above. Various animals like deer, and squirrels, enjoying the fresh green grass. I put some hummingbird feeders out, and the hummers came with their bright colors shimmering in the light. 

 

 Now I would label that scene Paradise. I see it daily and I do NOT get bored. Today raindrops came and nourished the flowers surrounding the view. 

 

The view is priceless. No trash littering the yard, no sounds of cars and trucks, no smells of cars and trucks. Perfect Air. 

 

Now, in the background you can hear the creek trickling over the rocks making a very relaxing sound of pure love. The trees quiet rustling noise, the birds singing, the animals like little cymbal sounds, all chiming in with the beautiful sound of the creek and wind. in our magnificent country orchestra. 

 

I see it, I smell it, I hear it, and my heart and soul burst with Thanks to the wonderful creator of the planet, for the joy We can all share. 

Judith

 


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The Mysterious Cycle of Life: Exploring the Concept of Reincarnation

 The Mysterious Cycle of Life: Exploring the Concept of Reincarnation

By Christopher Reburn 

As a spiritual practitioner with over 35 years of experience, I've encountered countless individuals who've shared their profound experiences and insights on the topic of reincarnation. While it's a concept that may spark curiosity, skepticism, or even controversy, it's undeniable that reincarnation is a deeply held belief for many people around the world.

Reincarnation, the idea that our souls or spirits return to the physical realm in a new body after death, is a fundamental tenet in various Eastern religions, including Hinduism, Buddhism, and Jainism. However, it's not exclusive to these traditions; echoes of reincarnation can be found in ancient cultures, mythologies, and spiritual practices across the globe.

Many people believe that reincarnation offers a profound explanation for life's mysteries: Why are we born with certain talents or challenges? Why do we feel an inexplicable connection to a particular era, culture, or individual? For those who subscribe to the idea of reincarnation, it's a comforting notion that our experiences, relationships, and lessons are part of a larger, ongoing journey.

I've witnessed firsthand the impact of reincarnation on people's lives – the sense of purpose, the healing, and the growth that can come from understanding our past lives. From vivid memories of past experiences to unexplained phobias or affinities, the whispers of reincarnation are all around us.

Of course, reincarnation is a deeply personal and subjective topic. Some may approach it with skepticism, citing the lack of concrete evidence or scientific proof. Others may find solace in the idea of reincarnation, drawing strength from the possibility of continued existence and growth beyond this life.

Ultimately, the question of reincarnation is a matter of faith and personal experience. Whether or not one believes in it, the concept invites us to ponder the nature of existence, the human experience, and our place in the universe.

As we explore the mysteries of life and death, it's essential to approach the topic with respect, empathy, and an open mind. By sharing our stories, listening to others, and embracing the diversity of human experience, we may uncover new insights into the enigmatic cycle of reincarnation – and the profound implications it holds for our lives today.

 


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